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September 2010





Terra Art & Frame

  • Quality Custom Framing
  • Acid-free & conservation mats, backings and glass
  • Thousands of frame and mat choices
  • Samples can be viewed in your home or office
  • Re-framing art to coordinate with new décor OR to up-date to conservation materials
  • Commissioned art
  • Art hanging and rearranging

To set up an appointment for framing, call Deborah at 314-544-2555


Terra Decorating Services

  • Color Consultation
  • "Use what you've got" make-over.
  • An "idea" visit
  • Shopping for your home décor needs
  • Room Accessorizing, art hanging and rearranging
  • Re-upholstery and window treatments Real-estate staging for quick home sales
  • Event décor for a family party, a house tour, a home wedding or event

Call Deb to set up a consultation appointment for your room make-over or for any of your decorating needs 314-544-2555.

Dear :

Last month I wrote on my experience of learning new communication skills courtesy of my dear son. I asked anyone who wanted to share his or her own personal communication rules to send them in. That was fun! I'm including some of the responses in a NEW section, Communication Skills 101 (see tab at the top). Please do read them. People had WONDERFUL concepts to share. For all of my female readers, there is a LONG list of "The Man Rules" sent in by a reader who I will just refer to as "Bob." They are well said, useful, and had me rolling on the floor laughing! I hope you will ALL enjoy them and find them as helpful as I did!

This is my "Year of Gifts and Genius." As per my friend Kim (from the first Artist's Way Group), we all name our year... making it our personal focus...to explore ...to grow in understanding in that area. So, when I saw the book, "The Genius in All of Us" by David Shenk, I was intrigued. When I read the sub-title, "Why Everything You've Been Told About Genetics, Talent, and IQ Is Wrong," I was even more interested.


Shenk, a very methodical researcher, brings to the reader's attention all the most recent literature on "nature vs. nurture" theories: studies of twins, geniuses, savants, child prodigies, etc., and concludes a rather startling (to me) outcome...WE ALL HAVE THE POTENTIAL TO BE PRETTY MUCH ANYTHING! Genius is made only in tiny part by genetics...the genes (the raw material that is us) are acted on by the environment...in utero, after birth, in the home, by parents, family, friends, schools, community, etc., and followed by 10,000 HOURS OF PRACTICE if we want to achieve genius status! Actually, Shenk says, "...approximately 10,000 hours of deliberate practice seems to be one of the necessary components to extraordinary achievement."

As per Shenk, "Talent is not a thing; it's a process." Relating many of the details of the lives of Beethovan, YoYo Ma, Michael Jordan, and others, the case is made for:

  1. Immersion into the area of achievement almost from birth.
  2. Some feeling of competition.
  3. A whopping amount of internal drive leading to those 10,000 hours of practice... leading to that high level of achievement.

Most important for parents and teachers are the conclusions Shenk draws regarding child rearing in his chapter called, "How to Ruin (or Inspire) a Kid". Here is the very pared down version of this chapter...

  1. Know that each child has enormous potential and that it is up to us to garner whatever resources we can to encourage that potential.
  2. Instead of rewarding the child's success with affection (and removing affection when the child fails), find ways to encourage the child to achieve for his/her own inner satisfaction. Never stop the love/ affection!
  3. Help children learn to delay gratification...by example...by rewards that are infrequent rather than the norm... by learning strategies to reduce frustration. An example: when a child saves his or her allowance and earnings to buy a desired toy or game, the parent could help the child create a picture of the desired item with a "thermometer" showing the entire amount of money needed...which could then be colored in as the funds are saved. The child learns to derive satisfaction from all the steps in the process, not just the final outcome.
  4. Allow or set up appropriate challenges for the child...and keep seeking new challenges to replace what has already been accomplished.

How did this book influence me? Where I had previously taught that we all have areas of "gifts and genius," I will now be amending that. My "re-think" has yielded:

WE ALL AGREED TO SHARE OUR GIFTS AND OUR GENIUS WITH THE WORLD BEFORE WE WERE BORN. WHEN WE MAKE AN EFFORT TO RECALL THAT AGREEMENT (as in the Treasure Journal class), WE ARE LED TO FIND THE FOCUS, THE RESOURCES, AND THE DETERMINATION NECESSARY TO BRING OUR GIFTS INTO EXISTANCE...TO DO OUR WORK HERE IN THIS LIFETIME.

What a exciting challenge this life is! Many blessings for a lovely September and an exciting learning period...back to school...or in the school of life!

Deborah


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